Social health is critical. We are creatures meant to live in a community and have connection. However, that doesn’t mean you have to be in an overwhelming social sea to fill your “social wellness” cup. Even the most extroverted of us can over-schedule social events and lead ourselves into burnout. Equally, the most introverted of us can shy away from social opportunities and not quite get the connection we need. How can you engage in social wellness for maximum benefit? It’s about knowing when to stretch yourself and when to step back. Here are a few ways to go about it:

Start with Self-Awareness

• Reflect on your comfort zones, values, and triggers. Notice how you feel in different social situations. Energized? Depleted? Understanding what makes you feel uncomfortable or overstretched can help you define your boundaries.
• Healthy relationships should feel mutually supportive. If certain relationships drain you or make you feel uncomfortable, it might be worth evaluating if they align with your boundaries, values, and needs.

Take Small Steps

• If you’re naturally introverted, try engaging in social situations in a controlled way. Start with low-pressure environments like small gatherings or one-on-one conversations.
• Take opportunities to step outside your comfort zone in safe ways. For example, engage in a conversation with someone you wouldn’t normally talk to or attend a social event where you don’t know many people. Free community events are a great place to start!
• For more extroverted people, setting limits on the number of social events you attend or how long you stay can help you avoid burnout.

Find Support Networks

• Surround yourself with people who respect your boundaries and encourage your growth. Friends, family, or even support groups can offer understanding and validation as you explore your personal social wellness.
• Vulnerability in social situations can lead to personal growth. By opening up about your feelings or challenges, you may find that others are more understanding and supportive than you expect.

Practice Self-Care

• Social interactions can be energizing, but they can also drain you, especially if you’re pushing your boundaries. Ensure you’re taking time to recharge—whether through alone time, hobbies, or mindfulness practices.

The Recap

In summary, exploring social boundaries is a balance between pushing yourself to grow and protecting your mental and emotional well-being. It’s about honoring your energy, your personal preferences, pushing yourself to be part of a community, and giving yourself permission to take time for YOU. It’s okay to step back when needed, and it’s equally okay to challenge yourself to try new things.

Written by: Stephanie Anklan, Registered Dietitian